The first time is rarely the right one 

Is romanticism living its last moments? Yes, if we are to believe Christelle, 22, a student at Chartres: "Crazy love, devastating passion, getting lost in the eyes of others and chabadabada, it's over for me, swears. her without any desire to laugh. I fell madly in love with Pierre when I was 17 and I really believed in it. He's the first man I slept with and I almost missed my baccalaureate because I was so obsessed with my story with him. When he left me last year, the fall was terrible. I won't be caught again." 

Without appearing to be so, the generation of 15-25 year olds is in the process of overturning the classic model of dating and building a life together. It is not only Christelle who says this, but a sociologist, Christophe Giraud, after having carried out a qualitative survey devoted to the loves of young women of our time”. “Most often, the first love stories are very invested, he explains. But when they end in a breakup, which is often the case, the protagonists change their behavior. They no longer want to be fooled and reject the romantic figure of love at first sight and 

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Demonstration. By Anne Anissa 

Mostly passion. They then live stories with lightness, without the desire to commit. These young women are the worthy heirs, one suspects, of previous generations. Before May-68, the first man you met was the one you married and made a living with. Then the 1970s went through this with sexual liberation but without going through a multiplication of partners, with the exception of militants who were a minority of free love. The women of 2017, take a step further: after the first real love story, they think above all of building their professional and personal careers. The love stories are then light, sometimes multiple... while waiting for better. We flutter, okay, but without cynicism! At 23, Adeline does not is in no hurry to find "the right one". She, too, fell in love in high school, and then realized she was mostly "in love with love." Watching yourself weave and being loved was great! It is an expression also used by one of the young women in Christophe Giraud's investigation. “These women realize that they loved love more than their partner, specifies the sociologist. This first story is very scripted. When it collapses, they completely question the scenario! “Hence this desire to flutter, to no longer let themselves be trapped by their own feelings and to have a good time “without taking the lead”. And by announcing the color from the start. “Currently, I don't have a darling, re-takes Adeline, but a sex friend. We know very well that We will never get together, but we get along well and we see each other when we have time. Sexual encounters are planned in the same way as dinners with friends or appointments at the library! Sorrowful minds will see the emergence of a cynical and immature generation, which surfs on the sites of escort girl to consume “without commitment or obligation to purchase”. This is a real misinterpretation, according to the sociologist. “They're just cautious, realizing that love isn't something feverish or eternal. They also know that it will not fall on them as if by magic. In doing so, these young women definitely relegate Prince Charming to the rank of accessories from another era, and that's good! Ciao passion, long live realistic love! And then a new encounter occurs, which is more exclusive than the previous ones. A reciprocal attraction, a "young know what" that can suggest that a new love is perhaps being born. And it's all in the maybe. Trouillardes, our younger generations? No way! Lucid.

Gone are the days when women forgot themselves in the relationship and even sacrificed their projects. . 

merely. “They take their time and wait for proof of love, underlines Christophe Giraud. This time, they want this story, if it is to become serious, to be based on real feelings, something authentic, deep. “A sort of tacit contract is then made between the lover and her new darling. We don't get together, but we gauge each other. “The two consider themselves as a couple and define themselves as such, continues the sociologist. We are faithful, we see each other regularly, and we try to produce something together, so there is a form of commitment. But married life is deferred. At this stage, love should not interfere with your studies or entry into professional life. Neither of them knows if this story will last... By definition, so we don't talk about the future. All of this is rational and well thought out. Exit the dreams? Self-transcendence in love? No way. Today's lovers reject passion because it is an illusion. As Christophe Giraudeau says, "they always formulate this idea of being in love, but they want to achieve it in a realistic way." How? By negotiating.
We see each other but not just to sleep. We also want to discuss, share activities, and possibly meet friends. We define the frequency of meetings, the place of meetings. The relationship starts quietly... An observation that joins that of Michel Boum, sociologist at the National Institute for Demographic Studies, according to which love, at first sight, is only mentioned in 15% of meetings in this age group. The majority of couples begin a story that is built step by step, brick by brick... Love does not prevent you from being yourself Of course, the contract can be broken at any time. But if the story continues, it results in a permanent negotiation. So that everyone respects the other and also feels respected in their life choices, in who they are. Gone are the days when women forgot themselves in the relationship and even sacrificed their projects. "I've been with Cyril for two years," explains Marina, 24. For now, I'm taking part in competitions, I'm working like a brute and he's fully supporting me. It makes me happy that he understands that I am not available on certain weekends. He knows that I am playing my future professional life and that it is important. For me, it's great proof of love. “Love does not prevent two individualities from being created side by side. Moreover, during these months or even these years of patient development of the relationship, one value remains central: that of friendship. Maintaining one's circle of friends is part of this identity construction that a romantic relationship, even one intended to last, not going to question. “In the eyes of these young women, friendship is really as important as love, even if it is also the case for other generations. Love passes but friendship remains. Friends are an essential reference in the construction of one's identity. It's only when the couple settles in on a cohabitation and has children that the friends begin to slip away. " But that's another story... It's only when the couple piles up a cohabitation and has children that the friends begin to slip away. " But that's another story... It's only when the couple piles up a cohabitation and has children that the friends begin to slip away. " But that's another story...